| You and the law in Australia
The law is there to protect you. If you are in immediate danger you can call the police (000). If you want to feel safe there are a number of choices you have.
- You can make a report and the police can charge for assaults, threats or harassment.
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You may also take out an order that is intended to prevent the person who has been violent toward you from having contact with you. This alters depending on your age and where you live.
- Contact your local police or Domestic Violence Helpline for more information.
How to help
If you know someone who is in a relationship and you are worried that it is violent, your support could be vital. Many people find supporting someone in this situation frustrating or draining, so it can be useful to also have your own support. Here are some tips.
- Talk to her about your concern - "I am worried because…". Tell her you care.
- Listen to her - try not to make judgements like "Why do you take it" or "Why don't you just break up with him?"
- Help her understand that abuse is not her fault. Don't make excuses for him "he's not a violent man, he is just under a lot of pressure at the moment".
- Believe her. Tell her you believe it.
- Help her understand the abuse and take it seriously.
- Think about her safety and offer to help protect her, as long as your own safety is not put at risk.
- Be patient and let her make her own decisions - don't tell her what to do.
- Be encouraging and supportive. Try not to criticise her or her partner. Point out what abuse is and how it works.
- Help her to see a counsellor or talk to the police. Go with her if she wants you to.
- Find your own support; check out legal or other information.
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